Coach Bill / Dad, Entrepreneur Special Educator, American Political Scientist, Writer, Musician.

What do you do with a child who is passively defiant, perhaps obnoxious at times, and increasingly dismissive of parental authority? Normally, the idea is to do something to change them, modify their behavior, or just kinda deal with each week as it comes. In some instances, with the supervision, guidance and direction of a doctor, like a psychiatrist, a child's parents may see their young child now be able to sit still longer, be more focused, and appear to show a very observable increase in another executive function skill, the ability to sustain attention. A pharmaceutical medication can be a 'bridge'  to help the child maybe focus on enhancing their ability to better self-manage themselves in a more goal-directed manner. n essence, be 'more' focused. This helps the child to be able to sustain their attention for a longer duration on a sequence of tasks. Rather quickly, the child (or adult for that matter) eventually understands quite intuitively that the 'so...

  Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. C.S Lewis Father's who make it a general habit to discuss and show their kids the importance of how they deal with setbacks as well as triumphs provide invaluable life skills teaching for their kids with tremendous long-term benefits that last a lifetime. You can start talking to them about how to deal with life's daily events when they are infants. This post is about making Daddy's stronger because I see America rapidly becoming a Father-less society. I am a Dad of three children, and I want to strengthen Daddy's role in the family and help put him in his rightful place. May this be so in such a way that honors the wife, and her place as the Mother of the family. May his strengthening be complimentary to the wife, and by doing so, complimentary to the husband too, and eventually the children. Dear Dad's Consider that your face time with your kids is leveraged being that you are out most of the ...

Jeremiah 29:7 The Word of The Lord And seek the peace of the city whither I have caused you to be carried away captives, and pray unto the LORD for it: for in the peace thereof shall ye have peace. Regardless of religion, can a holy book be used as a standard by which to self-monitor one self? I believe so.  Can a Father use it as a 'go to' guide that can guide the mind, as well as help the Father guide the mind of their children? I believe so also.  Can prayer be the guide? What is to be said about the growing prevalence of studies showing that prayer heals people from disease? I believe so and science is showing so. See here:   http://w3.newsmax.com/newsletters/mhr/issues/prayer02/mhr_prayer02_2.pdf  and here:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/richard-schiffman/why-people-who-pray-are-heathier_b_1197313.html Praying brings about peace in the heart and mind in a very immediate way. This manifests an immediate metacognitive slide into...

When you come to think about it, humans are either in a state of hormonal equilibrium, or are in pursuit/desirous of it. If you don't feel ok, the basic ingrained desire is to want to feel ok.   How we get there with the best interest of our families is the subject of this article.             An inordinate amount of distractions, jobs, tasks and futile pursuits which can fill our day. Through the  course of this day. If we were to get a "read-out"  of our daily hormonal flux we would be astounded by the up and down roller-coaster/stock market graphing of it. Given this hormonal flux, what is one big hormonal trap for kids and adults, and what are some concrete actions that are practical, engaging, and easy to integrate into one's life, and/or family life? To start with, spending an inordinate, unbalanced amount of time on technological gadgets manifests anxiety, stress, uneasiness and studies are showing it is physically bad...

The answer is no. Yet, a home that is made warm, comfortable and nurturing by both parents can provide more warmth than the best commerical home heater system out their. Using a formula system, it is practical, and easily possible for any family, independent of monthly income to make immediate home changes that immediately starts reaping love dividends from your kids. With consistency, a young heart and a growth-oriented mindset, parents can literally showcase and role-model incredibly important life skill tools that lead your children to have higher than strong executive function skills, high emotional intelligence, and an ability to deal with failure that is uncanny. Parents are advised. You may have to get on your hands and knees for some of this tough work. Horseplay, or what some call roughhousing may be a laughing matter to most, but it is actually a very serious matter that is understated and dismissed. Great horseplay entails the parent making it a continous  matter to poin...

Henry Ford, the founder of the Ford car company had an interesting take on empowering individuals and families... paying workers high salaries to drive up wages, giving them the ability to purchase houses, and access to opportunity. Ford also saw how he could create a feedback loop whereby the workers themselves can afford to purchase the cars they themselves help make. Can you do homegrown entrepreneurship that can bring supplemental income into your household? How would the unfolding of this process impact your child's perception of economic opportunity? By the term 'homegrown entrepreneurship' I am implying the concept about role-modeling to our children how to be successfully self-employed (or partly self-employed). I believe that if more of us started our own kinds of small businesses, there would be less need for government entitlement safety net systems of learned helplessness. From an executive function skills usage point of view, in a well-run home grown busin...

Do you find that your child tests your authority on a routine basis? Is peace at home eluding the family? Have you taken the video games away? the toys? used time outs? Is your authority being thwarted? Do you feel like you are not effectively distinguishing unwanted behaviors? Try all of the following as a set of moving forward parameters: Emotion-free parental responses at all times that is keenly aware of how you say what you say, (paraverbal skills).  Following through with punitive and natural consequences. The family home is not a democracy. Parents sometimes need reminding not to get into controlling situations which diminish the control their children perceive them to have. Don't have the 'back and forth' argument. Act calmly, lovingly, firmly, and methodically. In the long-term your management way will overpower. Reminding yourself that your kids will act the same way parents treat each other. In quiet households where parents are conversationally re...

As a 10 year Special Educator, and as an Executive Function Skills coach, my primary duty is to differentiate my instructional approach and facilitate tailored self-management tools, strategies, and systems that support the student across the short and long-term. Executive function skills are housed in the frontal lobe of the brain and are commonly referred to as the orchestra conductor of the mind (different from brain). Our ability to manipulate, orchestrate, and direct actions, reactions, feelings, behavior, time and the way we go about thinking about our thinking are these 30 or so known executive function skills. I also happen to be a political scientist, although I have no work published in peer-reviewed journals of reputation. I look at the intertwining of micro and macro events on a local, national, and global scale, especially as it pertains to my focus on kids and young adults with ADHD, executive function skills deficits, or autism.  My political science lens compli...

The 'knockout game:' The manifestation of apathy, anger,  and impulsive response to a feeling of disenfranchisement. The active use of calculated rage against someone  perceived as not being disenfranchised by rendering them   dead or in a comatose state of existence. An attempt to gain respect by peers. To create and promote this openess to this kind of behavior in a young person requires years of fine-tuning. A variety of parameters need to coexist to usher in a moral individual breakdown. Included within these can be being neglected love and a nurturing home environment, not having a Father and Mother present in the house, having a broken home caused by a divorce, lack of access to a fair education, and a lack of community support systems to provide consistent support to help each new generation of kids do well.   The 'knockout game' is but the tip of an iceberg whose name is not Racism in America, but Socio-Economic disenfranchisement that is cu...

Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm- Winston Churchill This statement is a mindset which can be used as a framework for the practice of excelling in rapid time towards short/ long-term goals attainment. Here is another mindset that parents, teachers, coaches, and even professors can use. Praise the process, not the end result. This is the crux of the 'growth-oriented mindset.' It is buttressed by two other flanking mindset that I am identifying; how you say what you say, which is the definition of 'paraverbal skills,' and the second minor-mindset, more aptly called a 'parameter mindset' is ...'kids expect what we  inspect.' This means that kids pick up on what you value and is important to you by what you say and by how you act. Churchill's comment is an attitude with a goal. It voices strong conviction, and a goal-directed persistence that well not be stopped. Think about it.... ...

Caveat* Iodine has been removed from almost all US consumption... Why? Who'd want to shortchange us and our families? Apparently, taking an appropriate dosage of iodine a day raises you intelligence by 10-20%. Incidentally, iodine deficiency robs you of peak executive function skill performance and sets the stage for mental retardation in babies that are in womb.    NYTimes article on I.Q. & iodine In a post-Fukushima continous daily nuclear meltdown world (;>), iodine becomes a protector of your thyroid, and your families thyroid, and can prevent a great range of cancers from manifesting. This is especially pertinent if you live on a Pacific Ocean-bordering country. Taking iodine, and even storing a bit of it is a good hedge against cancer and losing your intellectual capacity. Over time, this leads to dementia, and paves the way for Alzheimer's. This has happened before on massive levels, and is currently happening today on a massive level. Check out ...

A series of small measures can greatly change the landscape, given enough time.  Dump enough chemicals on peoples water, food and air, and you will cause health issues. Vaccinate a child 20x's before age 1 and you are causing autism, via small measures. The below is the sum of daily small measures which together greatly influence our american way of life. These small measures happen via vaccines, chemical air pollution from chemtrail planes, and from not reporting all the news thats fit to print.   I am for the health, peace, and happiness of families, and individuals, hence I advocate as a concerned american. Here are some truths which are part of daily small measures that are dictating our future: Truth sais that autism is caused by vaccine-damage. Truth sais that chemtrail, which is government-sanctioned airplanes dumping chemical agents on the american populace causes internal and external health maladies. Truth sais that many of the same autism-causing in...

Can  audio-visual media stimulation lead to severe negative growth in executive function skills? How about sensory skills, paraverbal skills, emotional intelligence? How does it become an 'escape' for kids who feel socially out-of-place? In this post, I want to explore the relevance of a growing amount of studies showing that television, Ipad, media time for kids six and under is immediately addictive for the child, and robs them of immediate social creativity. Likewise, the complete loss of all opportunities to develop emotional intelligence, paraverbal skill refinement, and all your executive function skills are turned off once you turn on the media in a immediate way. Study after study has shown that the first five to six years of a child's life are foundational to their neurological development. So the worst thing that you could do to your child is give them an Ipad to watch videos, and have access to 10 Ipad games that can be running all at once. The child lear...