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Dealing with an Angry Child: Being the Change you Want to See


Are you a parent of a child who fly's off the handle easily? Have you been making unprofitable attempts to modify your child's behavior? Try a back-door approach next time. Put on a mindset of "small beginnings." Introduce some new activities, like meditation (start at 10 seconds if that is what they can endure  (with a sleep mask to keep their eyes closed, and you holding their hand in a comforting way)

Other Executive Function/ brain balancing activities and sports to put into your arsenal are  ping pong, role-playing, yoga, tennis, swimming, paddleboarding, hiking, or working with coaching cards (parentcoachcards.com). Likewise, introducing acceleration interval training (30 seconds speed burst, 1minute rest, repeat 8x's), and chess, teaches kids social skills, and refines their frontal lobe self-management activities.

Through the context of these very engaging activities, parents and coaches directly facilitate executive function skill development, but also have an opportunity to praise the child's self-control, impulse control, self-monitoring, and behavior modulation skills. All of these are EF skills. The out of control child needs structure and routine, as well as nurturing and reassurance. Providing a balance of positive behavior supports with sturdy parental role-modeling, serve as the backdrop for stabilizing and improving behavior.

Parent/ Coach home work:  Meditate with your child one time per day, preferably in the morning. One minute for every year of age, but stop at 20 minutes. Meditate in nature when possible. Use relax melodies app, if you like. Meditation is proven to dramatically boost EF skills, including emotional control, and behavior modulation.

Schedule time to coach your child each day. Put it on a calendar and show them. Make it a bonding routine.

Purchase the coaching cards: They are about $28. They are worth it.

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