"The heart of the wise teaches his mouth, and adds learning to his lips."
If you want to increase your ability to self-monitor yourself, muscle-up all your self-control, and will power and practice being still. Still in your body, still in your mind. Do this for 5 minutes in the morning before you start your day. Follow your slow, long, deep breath. This is basic meditation. It is scientifically proven to dramatically enhance your executive functions skill, IF you meditate consistently over months. Being still is hard. WE ARE ALL WIRED to move in this day and age. But this is not a blog posting about why I want you to be still, or how great the world would be if more of us would be still, less we become like France (haha). This posting is to disect this EF skill, give you some tools/ applications on strengthening this skill, and some very quotable quotes worth qouting.
To self-monitor, from an executive functions skills development context, means to use a 'standard' by which to gauge, check, and measure oneself across identified criteria. Parents are the first 'standard' for children. They are role-models and aids who provide templates, mental models, and ways of being for their children. Showing them how to love, respond, act, and even how to be silly. As the child grows up and is exposed to other influences, such as television, and social media, norms change, influences shift, and new understandings are formed. I believe it is more important than ever before for parents to shelter, protect, and guide their child to make wise choices for themselves. "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it, (God)." I literally could not have said that better. God should be the Standard.
It behooves us to be acquainted with it for it is a lamp unto our feet, and a light onto our path. A standard by which to live one's life.
- To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding; to receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgement, and equity; to give subtily to the simple, to the young man discretion.
- Whoso keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from troubles.
- The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increases learning.